宽恕的艺术 Forgiveness
To forgive may be divine, but no one ever said it was easy, When someone has deeply hurt you, it can be extremely difficult to let go of your grudge. But forgiveness is possible- and it can be surprisingly beneficial to your physical and mental health.
宽恕是神圣的，但是人们都知道做到宽恕并不容易。当你被深深伤害的时候，心中无恨是很难做到的。但是宽恕是可以存在的—而且这会给你的身心健康带来出乎意料的益处。
“People who forgive show less depression, anger and stress and more hopefulness,” says Frederic, Ph. D., author of Forgive for Good. “So it can help save on the wear and tear on our organs, reduce the wearing out of the immune system and allow people to feel more vital.”
《宽恕的好处》一书的作者弗雷德里克博士说：“懂得宽恕的人不会感到沮丧、愤怒和紧张，他们总是充满希望。英语短文所以宽恕有助于人体各种器官的损耗，降低免疫系统的疲劳程度并使人精力更加充沛。”
So how do you start the healing? Try following these steps:
那么，如何平定自己的情绪呢？试试下面的一些步骤吧：
Calm yourself. To defuse your anger, duanwenw.com try a simple stress-management technique. “Take a couple of breaths and think of something that gives you pleasure: a beautiful scene in nature, someone you love,” Frederic says.
让自己冷静下来。尝试一种简单的减压技巧来缓解你愤怒的情绪。弗雷德里克建议：“做几次深呼吸，然后想想那些令你快乐的事情，比如自然界的美丽景色，或者你爱的人。”
Don’t wait for an apology. “Many times the person who hurt you has no intention of apologizing,” Frederic says. “They may have wanted to hurt you or they just don’t see things the same way. So if you wait for people to apologize, you could be waiting an awfully long time.” Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation with the person who upset you or condoning of his or her action.
不要等待别人的道歉。弗雷德里克说：“许多时候，伤害你的人没有想过要道歉。他们可能是故意的，也可能只是和你看待事物的方式不一样。所以如果你等着别人来道歉，你可能会等相当长的时间。“你要牢记，宽恕并不一定意味着盲从那些让你心烦意乱的人，也不意味着纵容他或她的行为。”
宽恕是神圣的，但是人们都知道做到宽恕并不容易。当你被深深伤害的时候，心中无恨是很难做到的。但是宽恕是可以存在的—而且这会给你的身心健康带来出乎意料的益处。
“People who forgive show less depression, anger and stress and more hopefulness,” says Frederic, Ph. D., author of Forgive for Good. “So it can help save on the wear and tear on our organs, reduce the wearing out of the immune system and allow people to feel more vital.”
《宽恕的好处》一书的作者弗雷德里克博士说：“懂得宽恕的人不会感到沮丧、愤怒和紧张，他们总是充满希望。英语短文所以宽恕有助于人体各种器官的损耗，降低免疫系统的疲劳程度并使人精力更加充沛。”
So how do you start the healing? Try following these steps:
那么，如何平定自己的情绪呢？试试下面的一些步骤吧：
Calm yourself. To defuse your anger, duanwenw.com try a simple stress-management technique. “Take a couple of breaths and think of something that gives you pleasure: a beautiful scene in nature, someone you love,” Frederic says.
让自己冷静下来。尝试一种简单的减压技巧来缓解你愤怒的情绪。弗雷德里克建议：“做几次深呼吸，然后想想那些令你快乐的事情，比如自然界的美丽景色，或者你爱的人。”
Don’t wait for an apology. “Many times the person who hurt you has no intention of apologizing,” Frederic says. “They may have wanted to hurt you or they just don’t see things the same way. So if you wait for people to apologize, you could be waiting an awfully long time.” Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation with the person who upset you or condoning of his or her action.
不要等待别人的道歉。弗雷德里克说：“许多时候，伤害你的人没有想过要道歉。他们可能是故意的，也可能只是和你看待事物的方式不一样。所以如果你等着别人来道歉，你可能会等相当长的时间。“你要牢记，宽恕并不一定意味着盲从那些让你心烦意乱的人，也不意味着纵容他或她的行为。”
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